Question: What do you tell a person who is mad at God because He will not give her the kind of job she wants?
Answer: This is a very interesting question. The first thing to consider is whether or not this person is a Christian. If she is not a Christian, then the most appropriate response would be to show Christian love to her by empathizing with her situation and try to take an opportunity to explain why God doesn’t necessarily grant every desire we have. The unbeliever will never fully understand the things of God because their hearts are hardened toward him (cf. 1 Corinthians 2:14).
If your friend is a Christian, that changes things a bit. It’s really difficult for me to tell you specifically what to say without knowing more of the details of this particular situation, but there’s a part of me that cannot help but think this is a somewhat childish perspective for a Christian to take. If you’re a parent, then you understand what it’s like when your child throws a tantrum. Getting mad at God because he won’t give you the job you want sounds an awful lot like a six year old getting mad at her parents because they won’t buy her the toy she desperately desires.
Keep in mind that this refers to your friend only if she is a Christian. The first thing I would point out is that God is not obligated to give us anything, much less what we desire. We’re all sinners and the wages of sin is death (Romans 6:23), so they only thing we deserve from God – what our works merit – is death and judgment. That we don’t receive this from God is a testament to his abundant grace.
Secondly, your friend’s attitude reflects an extreme lack of gratitude to God for what she does have. This was a similar attitude that the Israelites expressed toward God during their desert wanderings after the exodus. They forgot the lengths God went to in order to redeem them from bondage in Egypt. All they could focus on was that they missed the garlic and leeks and onions from Egypt. They complained and complained so much that when they refused to enter the Promised Land, God sentenced them to 40 years of wandering as judgment for their incessant complaining. God’s provision wasn’t enough for them; that’s a very bad position in which to be.
Finally, this mindset demonstrates a lack of faith on your friend’s part. First of all, there is a lack of faith in the character of God; that he is good and gracious. Second, there is a lack of faith that he will provide her what she needs (which may be vastly different than what she wants). Thirdly, faith demonstrates a sense of submission to God’s will. When we complain, we lack faith that God is working all things together for our good (Romans 8:28); and that in turn shows we aren’t submitting to his will for our lives. It becomes a case of “my will be done” instead of “thy will be done.” I know this sounds cliché, but more often than not, when God closes a door in one direction, he opens another door in a different direction. However, when we press for what we want, sometimes God allows us to ‘suffer’ the consequences of our desires.
I want to reiterate that you’ll want to take a different approach with your friend depending on whether or not she is a Christian; it does very little good to exhort a Christian response from someone who isn’t a Christian. But if she is a Christian, it might be good to challenge her thinking on this situation. If we desire something so much that not getting it causes us to get mad at God, then maybe the thing we desire has become an idol in our life.
Something to consider.